So I'll actually go to a serious topic...
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So I'll actually go to a serious topic...
A hokie tennis player and guy I went to school with committed suicide on December 9th. He was a Virginia State Champion AAA tennis singles player and basically had it all. I'll post the stories here but always ask questions if someone you know suddenly changes behavior.
I didn't know Brent well later in life but he was in some classes with me in high school and I would run into him at VT when we were there together. Really damn tragic.
Read the bold paragraph at the top:
https://medium.com/@bescofield/tech-bro ... 6314f830ef
http://www.richmond.com/obituaries/wilk ... 234a2.html
It's not a 'phase'. Ask questions. A 'phase' can lead to this.
I might be hitting the age(30's) where suicide stuff starts to rise and it may be normal. But it's not normal to me and an inordinate amount of people I knew seem to be taking this route. I've not had the greatest 2017, but I've never thought of that sort of alternative. I can't imagine what it takes to get to that moment but it happens. So help those around you and notice. Maybe not intervene, but notice.
I didn't know Brent well later in life but he was in some classes with me in high school and I would run into him at VT when we were there together. Really damn tragic.
Read the bold paragraph at the top:
https://medium.com/@bescofield/tech-bro ... 6314f830ef
http://www.richmond.com/obituaries/wilk ... 234a2.html
It's not a 'phase'. Ask questions. A 'phase' can lead to this.
I might be hitting the age(30's) where suicide stuff starts to rise and it may be normal. But it's not normal to me and an inordinate amount of people I knew seem to be taking this route. I've not had the greatest 2017, but I've never thought of that sort of alternative. I can't imagine what it takes to get to that moment but it happens. So help those around you and notice. Maybe not intervene, but notice.
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Re: So I'll actually go to a serious topic...
I don't know that suicide stuff becomes "normal" at any age. However, once I got into my 40s, I seem to be noticing more people that I knew in HS (not really close friends) that are dying for one reason or another. In most cases, it seems to be from an OD on drugs (not clear if intentional or not). I can think of one friend that committed suicide, but he had PTSD after serving in Iraq.ElbertoHokie wrote:A hokie tennis player and guy I went to school with committed suicide on December 9th. He was a Virginia State Champion AAA tennis singles player and basically had it all. I'll post the stories here but always ask questions if someone you know suddenly changes behavior.
I didn't know Brent well later in life but he was in some classes with me in high school and I would run into him at VT when we were there together. Really damn tragic.
Read the bold paragraph at the top:
https://medium.com/@bescofield/tech-bro ... 6314f830ef
http://www.richmond.com/obituaries/wilk ... 234a2.html
It's not a 'phase'. Ask questions. A 'phase' can lead to this.
I might be hitting the age(30's) where suicide stuff starts to rise and it may be normal. But it's not normal to me and an inordinate amount of people I knew seem to be taking this route. I've not had the greatest 2017, but I've never thought of that sort of alternative. I can't imagine what it takes to get to that moment but it happens. So help those around you and notice. Maybe not intervene, but notice.
I did have a very close friend get murdered by her BF back in 2012. He stabbed her to death in bed while there newborn baby was lying in a crib right next to them. After that, he went into the other room and stuck and shotgun in his mouth and blew his brains out. Thankfully the baby was unharmed.
I also had another friend that moved out to LA after college that was murdered. This was about 20 years ago though. I was not nearly as close to her as the other girl, but its just kind of weird knowing 2 people that were murdered.
“Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities.” ― Voltaire (1694 – 1778)
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Re: So I'll actually go to a serious topic...
You know, I don’t know anyone who has done this since a kid in my high school did it. I think it is 10th or 11th on the list of leading causes of death in the US. I know I have read that but don’t know where.
Sorry to hear about your friend. [emoji53]
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Re: So I'll actually go to a serious topic...
My best friend from VT committed suicide.
We had fallen out of regular contact, and now I regret that deeply, wondering if I could've helped. Thought of the guy often, just never called. I only found out approx 4 yrs after he'd done it. I was thinking about him one day, googled his name, and -bam!- there was his obit. I was crushed.
I called his sister. She explained that he had divorced, visitation with his children was severely restricted, and he just never got over it.
I still can hardly believe it. He was such a good guy.
We had fallen out of regular contact, and now I regret that deeply, wondering if I could've helped. Thought of the guy often, just never called. I only found out approx 4 yrs after he'd done it. I was thinking about him one day, googled his name, and -bam!- there was his obit. I was crushed.
I called his sister. She explained that he had divorced, visitation with his children was severely restricted, and he just never got over it.
I still can hardly believe it. He was such a good guy.
So I put (the dead dog) on her doorstep!
Salute the Marines
Soon we'll have planes that fly 22000 mph
"#PedoPete" = Hunter's name for his dad.
Salute the Marines
Soon we'll have planes that fly 22000 mph
"#PedoPete" = Hunter's name for his dad.
Re: So I'll actually go to a serious topic...
Guy I served with in the Navy killed himself. Messy break-up with his wife.
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Re: So I'll actually go to a serious topic...
Your friend joining a sick, perverted cult led by a loser should have been the first clue to those close to him. Sorry to hear of his death, but that scenario- crazy cult member- is not random.ElbertoHokie wrote:A hokie tennis player and guy I went to school with committed suicide on December 9th. He was a Virginia State Champion AAA tennis singles player and basically had it all. I'll post the stories here but always ask questions if someone you know suddenly changes behavior.
I didn't know Brent well later in life but he was in some classes with me in high school and I would run into him at VT when we were there together. Really damn tragic.
Read the bold paragraph at the top:
https://medium.com/@bescofield/tech-bro ... 6314f830ef
http://www.richmond.com/obituaries/wilk ... 234a2.html
It's not a 'phase'. Ask questions. A 'phase' can lead to this.
I might be hitting the age(30's) where suicide stuff starts to rise and it may be normal. But it's not normal to me and an inordinate amount of people I knew seem to be taking this route. I've not had the greatest 2017, but I've never thought of that sort of alternative. I can't imagine what it takes to get to that moment but it happens. So help those around you and notice. Maybe not intervene, but notice.
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Re: So I'll actually go to a serious topic...
Sedona is lovely...but also a place with a high whackadoodle per capita quotient.
So I put (the dead dog) on her doorstep!
Salute the Marines
Soon we'll have planes that fly 22000 mph
"#PedoPete" = Hunter's name for his dad.
Salute the Marines
Soon we'll have planes that fly 22000 mph
"#PedoPete" = Hunter's name for his dad.
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Re: So I'll actually go to a serious topic...
I’d like to spend a weekend there, but a long flight for a few days.RiverguyVT wrote:Sedona is lovely...but also a place with a high whackadoodle per capita quotient.
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Hiking around there is world class stuff.ip_law-hokie wrote:I’d like to spend a weekend there, but a long flight for a few days.RiverguyVT wrote:Sedona is lovely...but also a place with a high whackadoodle per capita quotient.
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Spend the week!
So I put (the dead dog) on her doorstep!
Salute the Marines
Soon we'll have planes that fly 22000 mph
"#PedoPete" = Hunter's name for his dad.
Salute the Marines
Soon we'll have planes that fly 22000 mph
"#PedoPete" = Hunter's name for his dad.